From the very first day of the job, there’s one thing that’s top of everyone’s mind—success. Success is what we desire. It’s what we seek. But what makes some people more successful than others? What makes them appear valuable? What accelerates their career growth? What makes them land better opportunities?
Is it how hard they work? Is it their intelligence and skills? Is it their thinking ability or their aptitude to solve complex problems?
Intelligence, knowledge, experience, and skills are important to do well at work, but those things can only give you the initial thrust to get started; they can’t make you unstoppable. Being remarkable and outstanding at work requires a set of daily practices—habits that make you shine and put you in front of the right people. These habits determine how others see you as a person—what makes them admire your skills, appreciate your knowledge, and find your experience worthy of their time and attention.
These habits shape everything—how you communicate, collaborate, stay productive, address conflicts, take risks, build relationships, and solve problems. Not consciously choosing these habits and making them a part of your life can leave a tremendous amount of your potential underutilized. You may get passed up for an opportunity. You may not get promoted. You may not be invited to meetings where your knowledge and experience could have made a difference.
These habits can help you push through when you hit a roadblock, trust yourself when you engage in self-doubt, and motivate you to take action when you get bogged down by inconsequential details. These habits can help you bring your best version to work every day.
The concept of the best possible version of me is not merely an intention, it is an action. It is the daily practice of taking full responsibility for my thoughts, emotions, behaviours, and actions.
― Tanya Valentin
Practice these 10 habits daily to be unstoppable at work:
Taking accountability instead of playing blame games
When outcomes don’t turn out as expected, or expectations aren’t met, the default reaction for most people is to blame someone or something else for their situation. But, blaming, complaining, and sobbing deflects responsibility—it shifts your focus from solving problems to finding excuses. Relying on blame and excuses to justify outcomes, spiraling in despair when faced with challenges and setbacks, and feeling paralyzed when required to make tough decisions keep you trapped in a toxic cycle of negativity, which leads to avoidance and inaction.
Taking responsibility and holding yourself accountable, on the other hand, gives you the power to make choices that are aligned with your growth and the goals you want to accomplish. It frees you from the burden of justification so that you can focus on what lies ahead. It shifts your mental energy to adopt the role of a creator who sees the obstacle in their path as a challenge instead of
The true key, if you want to live an unstoppable life, then you need to take 100% control of your life. Stop blaming others for your failures and faults and start accepting responsibility for your life.
― Thomas Narofsky
When you fail or make mistakes, feel disappointed, much like everyone else, but don’t let that disappointment get in the way of taking action or making progress. Push ahead with the relentless drive to find solutions instead of complaining about the problems. Expand your
Asking questions instead of leading with answers
When you’re part of meetings and discussions, you may be tempted to show off your intelligence—you may jump to solutions without understanding the problem, be quick to remark on a flawed strategy, or state your opinion without being asked. Acting as the person who has all the answers does not make you come across as a smart, intelligent, and informed person. Rather, it frustrates others, subjects you to mockery, and builds resentment. Your opinion that may carry real value is ignored, given less importance, or rejected just because others don’t trust and respect your judgment.
Asking questions, on the other hand, invites others to collaborate, share their perspective, and feel heard and valued. Questions also make way for clarity. Hearing diverse perspectives leads to more informed decisions. It creates an opportunity to validate assumptions, reduce misunderstandings, and align on a common measure of success. Well-framed and thoughtful questions not only challenge others to think differently, but they also develop a bond—a connection based on shared knowledge, experience, and mutual respect.
Don’t we all know how to ask questions? Of course we think we know how to ask, but we fail to notice how often even our questions are just another form of telling—rhetorical or just testing whether what we think is right. We are biased toward telling instead of asking because we live in a pragmatic, problem-solving culture in which knowing things and telling others what we know is valued.
― Edgar H. Schein
Questioning expands the range of possible solutions, gives others an opportunity to contribute, and makes the discussion feel like a shared experience instead of a one-sided conversation. As you help others navigate problems and reach their own conclusions, it builds confidence and conviction and a trust in your ability to guide them.
Speaking up instead of staying silent
When confronted with a
Speaking up, on the other hand, though uncomfortable and scary, can bridge the gap between your thoughts and others' expectations. It can resolve your differences and achieve alignment. Engaging in a meaningful way can build long-lasting, genuine connections. Handled mindfully, conflicts can build relationships instead of breaking them. It can heal instead of scarring. It can bind instead of creating a divide.
In an age where noise surrounds us, silence can seem like a precious commodity. Silence often masquerades as a protective layer, one that shields us from confrontation and the complexities of communication. It allows us to avoid difficult conversations and uncomfortable truths. When we hold back our thoughts and feelings, we create a divide that can be difficult to bridge. True connection requires vulnerability, something silence often obstructs.
― Carson Anekeya
Confront your fears. Face your insecurities. Don’t be paralyzed with the thought of
Seeking continuous feedback instead of avoiding criticism
When you ask for feedback with the intent to validate yourself or seek approval, a positive response raises your self-esteem, makes you feel worthy, and enables you to believe in yourself. However, even a hint of criticism puts you off—you feel attacked, targeted, and may even
Engaging in feedback conversations that make you feel good about yourself without highlighting areas where you need to improve may temporarily boost your self-esteem, but they’ll do nothing to advance you in the direction of your goals. Without getting clear, actionable feedback on habits you need to change, skills you need to build, and knowledge you need to expand, you’ll be locked in an illusion of greatness—you’ll be trapped with a false belief about your competence, which will prevent you from embracing opportunities required to evolve and excel.
Actively seeking criticism, on the other hand, changes your game. Criticism stings. It’s hard. At times, it may even be unfair. But, it’s also necessary. It’s what shows you the path when you’re stuck. It’s what gives you direction when you’re lost. It’s what gets you back on track when you’re distracted or lose focus. It’s what helps you stay grounded, truthful, and real.
Seek feedback from people who have valuable things to contribute, even if they make you uncomfortable. Channeling constructive criticism into useful signals can help you unlock your potential. You can bridge the gap between how you see yourself and how others perceive your work. Showing curiosity to learn from others also builds positive relationships at work—when they see that you value their inputs, they’re more likely to engage with you and stay honest.
The art of taking feedback is such a crucial skill in life, particularly harsh and critical feedback. We not only need to take this harsh feedback, but actively solicit it, labor to seek out the negative precisely when our friends and family and brain are telling us that we’re doing great. The ego avoids such feedback at all costs, however. Who wants to remand themselves to remedial training? It thinks it already knows how and who we are—that is, it thinks we are spectacular, perfect, genius, truly innovative. It dislikes reality and prefers its own assessment.
― Ryan Holiday
Praise can bolster your ego and make you feel capable, successful, and respected. But seeking only praise can turn you blind to your flaws. Criticism isn’t meant to undermine your confidence. It’s a powerful tool when viewed through the lens of growth. Seek it actively and often. Consider feedback as a growth catalyst, not a dagger.
Pre-blocking time for deep work instead of being ad hoc
When you don’t plan your day consciously, unannounced work keeps knocking at your door and keeps eating into your precious time and energy—you get pulled into random meetings, your product manager asks you to build a quick prototype an hour before their demo, bugs show up which demand your immediate attention and colleagues keep dropping by your desk to engage in idle gossip. All good intentions die when you’re running on autopilot.
Moving from one problem to the next, one meeting to another, and one crisis to the next leaves no time for important priorities. According to Parkinson’s law, work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion. When you’re not purposeful with your time, you’re bound to fill it with insignificant activities that leave you exhausted at the end of each day without adding value.
Busyness creates an illusion of productivity. Being caught inside the ‘busy trap’ makes it harder for you to see that productivity is not based on the number of hours you put in—it’s the time spent creating value. Busyness is also addictive. It saves you from the discomfort that comes from doing hard things—things that will move you forward but require you to step outside your comfort zone. Being busy is then the perfect excuse to avoid doing the work you fear or find particularly difficult to do.
Consciously planning your calendar, on the other hand, prevents you from engaging in inconsequential activities—it removes the busy element and replaces it with constructive choices that make life not only more fun but also more productive. Being productive requires giving life to your intentions. You need to take action. A great strategy to do this is to create implementation intentions and put them into action using the Pomodoro technique.
The
Make Time is a framework for choosing what you want to focus on, building the energy to do it, and breaking the default cycle so that you can start being more intentional about the way you live your life. Even if you don’t completely control your own schedule—and few of us do—you absolutely can control your attention.
— Jake Knapp
Don’t rely on good intentions or willpower to achieve your goals. Decide in advance what time you’ll be working, how long you’ll be working for, and what you’ll be working on. Put this on your calendar and get down to work with deep focus and concentration when the clock strikes.
Showing an appetite to take risks instead of playing it safe
If stepping out of your comfort zone gives you the chills, you may lean towards ideas, projects, and opportunities that feel safe instead of taking a risk. You look for solutions based on how problems have been solved before. You try to preserve the status quo. You let go of opportunities that have many unknowns and uncertainties involved. You align with decisions that are favored by others because disagreeing with them requires standing out and the courage to take risks.
But, playing it safe keeps you trapped in a cycle of mediocrity—when you keep doing what comes easy, you don’t learn to navigate complexity. When you pick tried-and-tested methods, you give up on innovation, creativity, and a chance to make things better. When you cling to projects you have done before, you let go of the opportunity to step up and build new skills. Safety feels comfortable, but it also limits your growth.
Taking risks, on the other hand, enables you to push boundaries—looking beyond personal limitations to recognizing new possibilities, building on skills, and taking on challenges by embracing new opportunities and thinking and planning ahead by considering the future and its needs. Developing the capacity to take risks gives you the power to shape the future and meet tomorrow’s demand instead of catering to business-as-usual. Your impact and the value you create get multiplied.
Taking risks does not mean being negligent or inattentive—it requires careful analysis of risks worth taking and being prepared to handle the situation if it does not work out. It requires confidence without arrogance,
Embracing risk is key to succeeding in the bigger game of life. Those who lose aren’t those who have dared greatly and fallen short of the mark. They are those who played so safe that they never lived at all.
― Margie Warrell
Making safe bets may seem less risky, but staying within a safety net limits your growth. Instead of leaning towards comfort, stretch your abilities by taking one step outside them. If it isn’t scary, it probably isn’t worth it.
Optimizing for long-term instead of seeking short-term gratification
When an urgent problem needs to be solved—for example, a production bug impacting a large customer base—looking for the quickest solution that will make the problem go away may be a smart strategy, but falling for a short-term mentality for everything that shows up can lead to bigger problems in the future. Issues that were fixed in the past with patchy solutions keep repeating, solutions that were implemented to cater to current demand do not scale, and rushed projects keep showing up with new bugs every day.
Living in a fast-forward, on-demand culture, we all crave instant gratification. We want things quickly. We want them now. Most of the time, we improvise and react to events with insufficient information—we don’t have the patience, time, and energy for more thoughtful long-term solutions. Unwilling to put in the effort, we fall for short-term thinking at the cost of better results in the future. The pursuit of a quick and easy fix to an issue is definitely more alluring than the prudent decision. Quick fix provides short-term relief from whatever it is we are facing at the moment—it creates an illusion that the problem is out of the way. But, we fail to realize that these short-term fixes are a series of steps into our long-term failures.
Avoiding the lure of short-term rewards and showing patience and persistence towards a growth-oriented long-term strategy, on the other hand, can reduce rework, make solutions better aligned with future growth, and leave plenty of time to focus on work that matters. Reviewing important decisions with a big-picture context provides the clarity to attack the source of the problem and avoid the temptation to seek temporary relief by implementing a quick fix in the moment.
We live in a fast-paced, demanding, results-oriented world. New technologies place vast quantities of information at our fingertips in nanoseconds. We want problems solved instantly, results yesterday, answers immediately. We are exhorted to forget “ready, aim, fire” and to shoot now and shoot again.
― Michael J. Marquardt
Instant gratification relieves short-term pain at the cost of bigger problems in the future. Taking a more long-term approach can be painful in the beginning, but it can lead to tremendous growth. Don’t settle. Don’t go with the quickest, dirtiest path to get what you want. Invest in a more thought-out and well-planned strategy.
Staying away from office politics instead of weaponizing it
Personal motives at work can make you act in undesirable ways—using tactics and manipulation to further your agenda, making biased decisions in favor of a certain group of people, talking behind other people’s backs and engaging in gossip, pushing others under the bus when things don’t go well, or using power plays to gain advantage over a situation.
When advancing your career or boosting your self-esteem becomes the primary focus, your behavior is not only unproductive, but it can also be toxic and unpleasant to those who experience it. You may engage in office politics because you feel exploited and misused by some people, or you may do it to keep close connections with some powerful people who like to play dirty. Whatever may be your reason to engage in office politics, being manipulative and evil is not the way to become unstoppable.
Consciously choosing the path that does not involve playing other people’s game, on the other hand, can set you free to create your own path to success. You can choose to ignore such people if they don’t directly impact your work. You can try to disarm them by not reacting to their negativity. You can have a candid discussion with them and openly express your concern if they seem to be holding a personal bias or grudge, or if their behavioral issue stems from a lack of self-awareness. The idea is not to keep your eyes shut to what’s happening around you or to be blind to other people’s insincere and exploitative strategies, but rather to learn to navigate office politics as a skill without stooping to other people’s levels.
This applies to when people are playing office politics or forming their cliques or working their personal agendas. Of course – sometimes you have to play those games too. But when dealing with people like this, let your first course of action and the fundamental core of how you handle things be very clear and direct: Outwork and outperform every last one of them. While you’re over there watching me and talking about me – I’m working. When you’re gossiping – I’m working. When you’re talking smack – I’m working. When you’re chattering – I’m working. While you continually focus on what everyone else is doing – I’ll focus on what I can do right. And when you finally look around at where you are and where I am – you will realize that you have nothing to talk smack about.
― Jocko Willink
There’s only one way to win at office politics—not letting the negativity consume you and channeling your energy into doing great work, making it visible, and taking control over your own success. You become unstoppable when you don’t let other people’s toxic behavior become an excuse to play badly, too.
Strengthening relationships using give and take
If you tend to put your own interests ahead of other people’s needs, you may evaluate every situation based on how it benefits you—Will sharing knowledge increase your visibility? Will solving other people’s problems earn you credit? Will attending an office party lead to better connections with the higher-ups? Your interest and participation are based on what you’ll gain and what you have to lose. Anything that involves a lose-win situation is out of scope. Anything that involves a sacrifice without getting anything in return is a big “no-no.” Anything that does not make you look better or supreme compared to others is of no value. You try to give based on what you can get.
This keeps your relationships superficial and need-based. You don’t connect with people at a deeper level or earn their trust and respect—they don’t vouch for you when you’re in need or recommend you for better positions. They don’t support you when you make a mistake or fail terribly. They don’t consider you as their first choice when they need help. “Take-based” relationships are like weak signals that work rarely and fail most of the time.
Putting other people’s needs ahead of your own, on the other hand, can build special bonds with people and strengthen relationships. Sharing your knowledge and experience without boasting, helping those in need without expecting anything in return, or mentoring others without any recognition makes you come across as a genuine person who actually cares about others.
Your “giving” attitude plays a big role in the love, support, and respect you gain—your likability makes you favorable when you’re put up for a promotion or in need of a better opportunity. Your selfless demeanor gets you the attention without any noise. When you need help, others reciprocate in kind.
Giving does not mean sacrificing to the level of personal harm or always putting others ahead of your own needs. It means not evaluating every situation through the lens of gain and loss. Not trying to turn every situation to your advantage. Not making a big deal out of every contribution. Not treating others as your points of leverage.
Success depends heavily on how we approach our interactions with other people. Every time we interact with another person at work, we have a choice to make: do we try to claim as much value as we can, or contribute value without worrying about what we receive in return?
― Adam M. Grant
Relationships that are built using give and take last long. They aren’t fragile. They aren’t one-sided. They make you unstoppable by garnering support from people when you need it the most. Be there for others. Lift them up. Try to give more than what you take from them.
Prioritizing self-care instead of giving boundaryless freedom
Replying to an email even if it’s late, saying yes to every request that comes knocking at your gate, and pushing your personal priorities aside to make more room for work can get you the attention and visibility you seek, but it also sets you up for exploitation. You may be asked to work late, pick up other people’s slack, and be expected to reply to every message instantly. You may be able to keep up with these expectations in the short-term, but constantly enduring significant pressure to meet others' demands can leave you tired, exhausted, and burnt out. You can’t perform in this state. You can’t keep missing commitments and still expect to be credible. You can’t people-please your way to success.
Thinking about your boundaries and clearly defining them, on the other hand, protects you from going overboard. It gives you the freedom to make choices that are aligned with your goals. It gives you the courage to say “no.” It allows you to contribute at your highest level without losing sanity. Boundaries are the invisible gates that protect your peace.
Setting boundaries in no way implies less dedication, less passion, or less commitment towards work—if anything, it develops respect for knowing what matters. Making space for things in your life beyond work, saying no to inconsequential activities, and not feeling obligated to respond at odd hours keeps you energized, dedicated, and focused to produce your best work. You contribute more, not less. You excel in your work. You exceed expectations.
Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where i end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership. Knowing what I am to own and take responsibility for gives me freedom. Taking responsibility for my life opens up many different options. Boundaries help us keep the good in and the bad out. Setting boundaries inevitably involves taking responsibility for your choices. You are the one who makes them. You are the one who must live with their consequences. And you are the one who may be keeping yourself from making the choices you could be happy with.
― Henry Cloud
Self-care is the most important aspect of growth that gets the least attention. Most people ignore it unless it starts affecting their day-to-day work. Prioritizing it without guilt keeps you sensible and sound to bring your best self to work every day. It makes you unstoppable by keeping you sane and real.
Summary
- Finger-pointing and blame games relieve you from feelings of fear, shame, and guilt by criticizing others and assuming they’re the source of your problem. But not taking accountability for your results keeps you trapped in negativity, which prevents you from taking action and solving problems. Stop finding excuses and start taking responsibility.
- You may think that providing solutions to other people’s problems or being the one with all the answers will make you come across as smart and intelligent. In reality, it frustrates others and makes them give less value to your opinion. Instead of leading with answers, ask questions. Let others find their own answers and reach their own conclusions.
- It’s easy to avoid conflicts and hard to speak up, but putting the conflict aside does not make it disappear. Lingering issues waste your mental energy, strain relationships, and prevent you from focusing on your goals. Don’t be silent. Voice your opinion and share your concerns.
- Positive feedback can make you feel proud and give you momentary happiness, but not knowing where you’re falling short can prevent you from learning, growing, and getting better. Actively seek criticism, even if it stings at first. Lean towards areas of improvement, not just what you’re doing well.
- Not prioritizing what you intend to achieve each day can fill your calendar with ad hoc work and time-wasting activities. You can feel exhausted at the end of each day without accomplishing much. Set aside dedicated time blocks to do important work; don’t let it be derailed by urgent requests.
- If you don’t embrace ambiguity, uncertainty, and unknowns, you’ll sit inside your comfort zone, which will keep you safe, but also prevent you from growing. Without taking risks, you’ll miss the opportunity to plan for the future, solve challenging problems, and expand your skills. Be fearless. Build the courage to navigate the uncharted territory.
- If short-term thinking is your default strategy to handle problems at work, you may lean towards easy and quick fixes instead of more thought-out and well-planned solutions. But always solving problems in a hurry leads to bigger issues. You end up wasting more time and energy as the issue keeps repeating. Instead of seeking instant gratification, invest in a long-term approach.
- When other people at work like to play dirty, engaging in office politics may seem like your only choice. But, playing other people’s games messes with your mind and distracts you from focusing on your own goals. Find a way to minimize their impact without stooping to their level.
- When you treat relationships like business transactions, you try to maximize your gain by leaning towards activities that will benefit you and say no to things where you may not get anything in return. This keeps your relationships superficial—people don’t vouch for you, show their support, or come forward when you need help. Instead of a “take-only” relationship, selflessly give. Gain trust and respect by putting others first.
- Working without boundaries can soon kill your enthusiasm and leave you feeling tired, exhausted, and burnt out. Instead of trying to do it all and failing on your commitments, identify what really matters and double down your effort on it. Nothing is worth your mental health and personal well-being.
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